floatSpace in regards to Relativity

Until now, my strategy of problem solving has been a grand unification by means of identifying basic principles of the nature of the universe. I have tried to accomplish this by merging the concepts of space/time and mass/energy, so that all of these concepts spawn from one element of existence simply taking different forms by consequence of the local events position in relation to the whole of the universe. Now I will identify several problems in the current model.

Problem One: the Variable Perception of the Sequence of Events

Einstein's theories of special and general relativity state that the perception of the simultaneity, and likewise the asynchrony, of any given event to another depends on the relationship between said event to the observer in terms of their relative spacialSpeed to each other. Mysteriously, the perception of temporalSpeed becomes split between the event and the observer. It seems to me that the sequence of events, the eternal process of causality becomes muddled in a confusing relativism calling into to question the idea of now regardless of spacial differences. For instance, astronomers often quote "the stars as we see them in the night sky do not look that way now, but we are in actuality seeing the stars as they were millions of years ago. In that sense, there is an eternal present in which all things are happening at the same time, but we are unable to detect or experience the now because of the limitation of the speed of light. The information is unable to travel across the vast distances in time for us to be able to see what is happening now.

Can there be an eternal present, an ordered contiuum of events that occur simultaneously, and yet still allow for the perceptions of observers in this coherent existence to percieve a difference in the sequence of events?

Problem Two: Relative Mass and Relative temporalSpeed

As an observer moves closer and closer to the speed of light, his mass increases. And as we know from the General Theory of Relativity, as Mass increases, time slows down for the observer in relation to all outside events. Take these two examples as illustrations of these principles.

space ship example
a spaceship leaves earth, then initiates a journey to a distant star near lightspeed
the pilot of the spaceship experiences time passing normally. He gets to the planet let's say 40 years later, then immediately begins his return trip. 40 years later, he arrives at earth (assuming the earth and the star were not in motion relative to each other [which would probably not be the case in reality]). 80 Years have passed for the pilot of the spaceship. But, how much time has passed on Earth? According to GR, much more time than 80 years would have passed on Earth. In fact, everybody the pilot knew would probably be long dead.

blackhole example
Einstein's theories of special and general relativity state that the perception of the simultaneity, and likewise the asynchrony, of any given event to another depends on the relationship between said event to the observer in terms of their relative spacialSpeed to each other. Mysteriously, the perception of temporalSpeed becomes split between the event and the observer. It seems to me that the sequence of events, the eternal process of causality becomes muddled in a confusing relativism calling into to question the idea of now regardless of spacial differences. For instance, astronomers often quote "the stars as we see them in the night sky do not look that way now, but we are in actuality seeing the stars as they were millions of years ago. In that sense, there is an eternal present in which all things are happening at the same time, but we are unable to detect or experience the now because of the limitation of the speed of light. The information is unable to travel across the vast distances in time for us to be able to see what is happening now.

Can there be an eternal present, an ordered contiuum of events that occur simultaneously, and yet still allow for the perceptions of observers in this coherent existence to percieve a difference in the sequence of events?

Problem Two: Relative Mass and Relative temporalSpeed

As an observer moves closer and closer to the speed of light, his mass increases. And as we know from the General Theory of Relativity, as Mass increases, time slows down for the observer in relation to all outside events. Take these two examples as illustrations of these principles.

space ship example
a spaceship leaves earth, then initiates a journey to a distant star near lightspeed
the pilot of the spaceship experiences time passing normally. He gets to the planet let's say 40 years later, then immediately begins his return trip. 40 years later, he arrives at earth (assuming the earth and the star were not in motion relative to each other [which would probably not be the case in reality]). 80 Years have passed for the pilot of the spaceship. But, how much time has passed on Earth? According to GR, much more time than 80 years would have passed on Earth. In fact, everybody the pilot knew would probably be long dead.

black hole example
a black hole is a star so massive that its gravitational pull does not allow for light to escape, light being the most massless particle that we know of. The event horizon of a black hole is the point of no return, when an observer comes so close to it that his escape velocity exceeds the speed of light, then he has crossed the event horizon. Let's imagine an astronaut drifting through space and his spaceship's propulsion equipment has broken down beyond repair. The ship is on a collision course with a black hole. Unable to do anything, the astronaut prepares himself for the most amazing fireworks that any human has ever seen. As he approaches the black hole, the starry sky betrays a darkspot, where no stars shine, and this darkness slowly swallows up more and more of the view until it has taken 50% of the sky. Half of the sky is Darkness, the other half is the light from the observable universe still flowing into it. The astronaut's time slows down in relation to the outside universe. What does this mean... Well, when we look at the stars, we see them standing still, twinkling quietly. That's because our experience travels so fast that the stars look as though they are not in motion. In reality they are in motion. So as the astronaut accelerates towards the center of the black hole, the movie of the stars, to him, is accelerating. First the stars begin to budge, then they pick up speed and start to dance around each other. The most noticeable aspect of the sky would be the rotation of the Milky Way, which would turn from a cloud of stars in a blazing wheel of spiral energy. The astronaut would experience the collision of the Milky way with the Andromeda Galaxy in a matter of seconds to him. The incredible fluidity and water-like elegance of the cosmic light show would be an amazing sight, and perhaps, if the astronaut survives the tidal forces in the rotating black hole for long enough, he would be able to witness the extinction of all light into black holes, marking the end of an era in the known universe. That would be a movie ticket I would consider buying.